Improve your EMDR therapy experience

6 WAYS TO GET THE MOST OUT OF YOUR EMDR EXPERIENCE

In this article, I will describe six ways to help you improve your EMDR therapy experience and understand how EMDR works.

EMDR is a focused, goal-oriented and effective therapy with the potential to eliminate your symptoms. It is recognized as effective and beneficial by the American Psychiatric Association, the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs, the Department of Defense and the World Health Organization among other national and international organizations.

Here is what you need to know in order to get the most out of your treatment:

1. CHOOSE AN EMDRIA-TRAINED EMDR THERAPIST

There is no one way to do therapy, but there can be a wrong way. Like any other forms of therapy out there (or medication, for that matter), EMDR has the potential to harm—if it used irresponsibly or by a practitioner who is not fully trained.

If you are interested in seeing an EMDR therapist, and you live in the U.S., make sure the therapist you choose has been trained by the EMDR International Association (EMDRIA). They train trainers as well, and through any EMDRIA-approved trainer, your therapist will have the correct knowledge and skills. Ask your therapist about her training!

In its very early days, some EMDR practitioners began training others without getting enough training themselves. Unfortunately, the clients who were treated by these untrained therapists experienced harmful effects. It turned out that the therapists were neither following the procedures nor the principles that the original discoverer of EMDR, Francine Shapiro, had laid out. To protect the public, Shapiro created training guidelines that ensure capable therapists.

Therapists should practice EMDR responsibly. Well-trained therapists watch for certain conditions that can interfere with the effectiveness of EMDR or worse, cause harm, including medical risk factors, a need for stabilization, undiagnosed dissociative disorders, certain susceptibilities, a need for other therapy first, and more. If anything gets worse during therapy, a trained therapist can help you resolve this situation.

2. CHOOSE AN EMDR THERAPIST YOU TRUST AND LIKE

A good therapeutic relationship helps you feel safe with your EMDR therapist when exploring painful traumas from the past. The more you and your therapist trust each other, the better the chance that your treatment is going to work.

You want to establish a positive therapeutic relationship. Choose someone you are comfortable with, you trust, and you like working with. (You don’t have to like them in the way you like your friends.)

A good therapist understands that not every therapist is for every client. They should be willing to let you say, “Thank you, but I’d like to work with another therapist.”

The bond of trust will improve your EMDR therapy experience. A good therapist wants you to have the best therapeutic relationship possible for your work.

3. NEVER FEEL PRESSURED. ONLY *YOU* DECIDE WHEN YOU’RE READY

EMDR therapy can bring up difficult emotions and memories from the past. So before starting, your therapist will walk you through a few preparation exercises.

Learning to do these exercises is important. They give you ways you can calm yourself in case you begin to feel overwhelmed.  For instance, one of the basic exercises is to practice being in a safe or calm place.

Mastering these exercises prepares you to start reprocessing. But you are the only one who knows if you are ready or not. Your therapist cannot see what happens inside your brain. Pretending or not reporting your real internal experiences to your therapist can lead to poor results, or even getting worse. (Recheck tip #2.)

Know that it is up to you (not the therapist) to decide whether you are truly ready. A good therapist will 100% respect your feelings and help you feel more ready… until you are. They can offer their opinion about your readiness, but you make the decision.

4. IMPROVE YOUR EMDR EXPERIENCE BY UNDERSTANDING HOW EMDR WORKS IN THE BRAIN

In my practice, I discovered that clients who understand how EMDR works in the brain have more successful treatment results. So I began educating clients about it. Your therapist may or may not do this, but since it may be helpful, here is the idea.

Trauma and difficult experiences are stored in the brain differently than other memories. It’s like they got “stuck,” stored in the wrong place. Sometimes life allows us to process them later. But those that remain stuck can cause problems in the present such as PTSD, anxiety, depression, OCD, insecurity, nightmares, flashbacks and more.

Those unprocessed memories are “frozen” in time, captured in a way that can intrude on everyday thoughts. In studies, when people with PTSD remember their traumatic incident, they activate different areas of their brains than normal remembering does. The fear center of the emotional brain and visual areas make the memory alive and present. And the language center of the brain is offline—there just are no words for the trauma.

In many cases, in fact, trauma cannot be explained in words. So EMDR processing does not focus on the expression of words, but rather on body sensations, emotions, and visual memories. These can be more helpful than talking about what happened (as regular talk therapy does).

Your EMDR therapist will guide you through a process that gently stimulates both sides of the brain in a way that allows you to “reprocess” those memories. When you are done, your brain will have transitioned that memory from a “psychological memory” (emotional, alive and threatening) to an objective memory (something that happened in the past). And from there, symptoms begin to fade too.

5. EXPECT THE EFFECTS OF REPROCESSING TO CONTINUE

In each working session, your EMDR therapist guides you back to one of those experiences that is “stuck” in your brain. After reprocessing memories, clients often (not always) report immediately feeling some relief.

And then something strange happens: they continue to feel better and better in the days after their session.

The benefits of EMDR can continue to grow long after the session is over. Sometimes, what happens is the session is a “jump start” of what is going to happen in the brain. Reprocessing and integration will continue as you live your life.

It is possible to have weird dreams, or at other times recall events that happened many years ago. Some might even be disturbing. Make sure to let your therapist know if anything negative came up between sessions. (And use your preparation exercises to calm yourself.)

The effects of EMDR have been shown to stay with you. Once you have reprocessed a memory, you will look at it objectively, not as a trauma.

And you are very likely to continue to get better and better.

6. RESULTS: BECOME THE OBSERVER

By the time you are done with your EMDR processing, you will have a different relationship to the old memories. Your memories will still be intact, but instead of being triggered by them, you will truly become a neutral observer of them.

It means you will be able to stay more present. You’ll notice more of what is happening in your mind and body without getting caught up in it. That will assist you even further to come to peace with the past after reprocessing.

As the observer, you’ll feel less at the mercy of your feelings and thoughts. You’ll feel more self-control. Emotional flooding should decrease while your ability to hold attention increases.

What used to trigger you in the past will feel more distant, a mere fact, not something deeply upsetting. And you should also develop a better sense of self-compassion.

What a relief! You can now focus on living a fuller, freer, happier life.

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